Monday, November 16, 2009

Community : Serving and Being Served




Peter Pollock and Bridget Chumbley are hosting their bimonthly one word blog carnival. Today's word is "Community". For purposes of this post, I am working with the definition

a social, religious, occupational, or other group sharing common characteristics or interests and perceived or perceiving itself as distinct in some respect from the larger society within which it exists (usually prec. by the): the business community; the community of scholars.

Which I found here.

So, a community shares something in common. But is knowing that the person living across the alley likes to play checkers and so do I really make us part of the checker playing community together? You know, I don't think so. I think to really be part of a community, we need to share more than a common interest. I believe we need to share our very selves: we need to serve a community, and allow ourselves to be served by that community, to really be a part of it.

Community must be important to God, I think. When we were just babies, He placed us within the most intimate of communities, our families. It is with our families that we learned to share our gifts, whether that gift was reading to a younger sibling or cousin, clearing the table and doing the dishes for Grandma, or taking out the trash for mom.

The youngest of children are the ones who really get it: we are most part of a community when we are either serving, or being served. Hopefully we are at both ends at times, so we don't either become burnt out or entitled. I think this is true whether the community we are speaking of is family, neighborhood, Church, and even cyber communities.

Service in the neighborhood could be anything as time consuming as delivering meals on wheels, or as quick as a phone call to a shut in to see how they are. It could be as difficult as organizing a food drive, or as simple as donating some canned food to that food drive. Even shoveling your own walkway so the mail carrier doesn't break his or her neck is a community service. It is the thinking of our neighbor and acting on that thought that binds us in a community, and not the mere proximity of our houses.

Some of our greatest acts of service take place at Church: prayer. I know, there are lots of ways that the Church serves others, but there is nothing that makes me feel more attached to someone in my heart than to pray for them, or to know they are praying for me. I have found myself genuinely concerned about strangers I have been asked by friends to pray for, and I have felt so weary and sad at times that I didn't even know what to say in prayer for my self and family anymore, but I felt God say in my heart "Helen, that is okay. There are so many others sending prayers for you right now. Just sit here with me and rest, and I will take care of you". THAT, my friends, is the power of a community! Years ago, when my mom was sick, and I despaired of finding the right words, I knew that God would read my heart, and hear the prayers of my Church, school, friends and family. Sometimes I would think that I just had to find a way to say it, and I would feel God say "Shh...I know...It's been said. Rest with me."

I also mentioned the cyber community earlier... How can we serve each other via the computer? You know, we do all the time. How often have we talked things through with each other via twitter? We encourage each other over the cyber waves when we have a bad day, and rejoice with each other when things go well. I love joking with each other, sharing music links, life stories, cheer, and cookie descriptions. I will also always be grateful to Wendy at @weightwhat for tweeting back and forth with me for hours the night before I was to take my husband to the hospital for tests (which turned out great by the way...) because I was worried, and friends who commiserated with me over my broken furnace. And how many times have my cyber friends and I sent requests for prayer via email back and forth?

Most people who complain about their community do so because they feel disconnected. Service, both the giving and receiving is in my opinion the best way to connect with our community. Prayer, I do believe, is the ultimate service any of us can do for one another.

A Mildly Amusing Conversation at Barnes and Noble Cafe


Okay, they looked nothing like this, but everyone knows that a picture on a blog post grabs attention...



First of all, I want to ask you to go to my friend Wendy's blog. Things are hectic for her right now, and she could do with an extra smile. Ideally I know she'd like for you to participate in her blog carnival, but if you aren't up for that right now, how about leaving a favorite joke in her comment section. Something, anything for a grin. Thanks.



I wish my life is funny post was a barrel of laughs this week, but it is more like mildly amusing. Still, the best I can do is good enough, right? (I have to say, Wendy has always been generous in her blog carnival about the best I can doing being good enough...)

Anyway, here is what I found mildly amusing lately...

Last week Sunday, November 8, my husband and I went to see a movie, and then to hang out at Barnes and Noble. We LOVE to hang out at Barnes and Noble. We will each scoop up an armload of books, take them to the Barnes and Noble Cafe, and browse through them. We do not buy many of them. We usually pick no more than one each, because frankly, we love our library, and can get many of the books there, at least eventually. But sometimes there is a book that we believe we will read more than once, need to savor, or will be quite possibly passing down to someone else.

Anyways, I digress. My perusing habits don't have much to do with this except that after we each are done with our pile of books, we will usually order a treat. What was funny last week was that when I finished my last book and was about to get myself a peppermint mocha latte and the chocolate brownie with white chocolate chips and macadamia nuts that I'd been looking forward to, I look up to find Bob staring at me...

Helen: What's the matter? Is something wrong?
Bob: No, not at all. I just realize...You lost some weight...
Helen: I don't think so hon, but thanks. ( I have fallen "off the wagon" of my diet a few months ago, and meant to get back on, but didn't...)
Bob: Really Helen, you have.
Helen: Bob, you are very sweet, but I doubt it. I have been getting out of breath lately when I go up and down the stairs, and after a while, my knees start to hurt. I do appreciate the compliment though..
Bob: Honey, have you thought about the fact that you actually make more trips up and down the stairs now, so of course you have aching knees after and our out of breath...Anyways, you are looking good, and I am proud of you.

Okay, what is so funny about this? I'm getting there...I suddenly had no more desire for the peppermint mocha latte and the chocolate brownie with white chocolate chips and macadamia nuts... Since then, I have even noticed that I desire less portions at meals at home. I'm not talking about a loss of appetite that should be worrisome, just that I haven't desired as much food.

Isn't it funny? I couldn't get back on my diet once I cheated on it because I despaired, but once my husband suggested that I actually succeeded, I could get back on without even trying.

Life is funny....

Now make sure you have gone to Wendy's blog and either left a link to a LIFE IS FUNNY post of your own, or left your favorite joke in the comment section...