Tuesday, April 20, 2010

Turning the Other Cheek



__________ @Helenatrandom am a chi-town guy too..from clark/division.. you look too old to be a daughter, ur mom is like, 90 yrs old? LMAO


Why would a stranger tweet that to me last Sunday? It really hurt my feelings. I may not be the youngest looking forty in the world, but I thought that tweet (from a stranger who isn't following me nor I him no less) was rather cruel.

I was tempted to tweet a catchy comeback, but you know what they say about "not feeding the trolls..." But the child in me that was picked on really wanted to let my friends on twitter know so they could defend me. I have some real kick@$$ friends on the twitter. By the time Wendy and Katdish would have got through with him, there would have been nothing left for anyone else. Annie would be mad about that, too. She lives to kick @$$.

But after after thinking about it, I determined that that, too would show a lack of self control, plus expose my friends to @ __________'s ......wit. As much as I wanted to put this person in his place, I could not. So instead, I treated his question as if he actually expected an answer.

@________ actually, she was 73 when she passed away last month.

There. I didn't ignore him as troll, nor did I smack him upside the head....

He responded by attempting to sound wise this time, rather than like a wiseacre.


_______@Helenatrandom I'm so sorry.. life's like a vacation..it never lasts as long as we want..

to which I replied

@________ True. I stayed home taking care of her for 4 years. It didn't seem like a vacation at the time, but I really miss her.


What is the point of all this? I don't turn the other cheek very well. I was taught that this only sets the other cheek up for a slap as well... But I'm trying. Because if I'm going to be truthful, self control is probably my most underused gift.

Sorry if this example seemed rather pathetic. It really was just a small, insignificant incidence. I'm rather embarrassed that it took so much effort on my part to not try to get even with him. But maybe by exercising self control in this small incident, I'll be better the next time there is an important situation in which to show self control.



15 comments:

Glynn said...

Sometimes it's not about turning the other cheek; sometimes it's about righteous anger. It's hard to know where the line is, but I'd say you'd didn't fail at turning the other cheek; instead, you muted your righteous anger. And that was a loving response.

♥ Kathy said...

You handled that so much better than I would have if I spent enough time on Twitter to have seen that. It hurts me that you were hurt that way. I'm proud of you for not responding in the way I KNOW I would have...it wouldn't have been pretty I can tell you that for sure! I'm sorry the %$#@@%&* treated you that way. I love you and think you are beautiful ♥

Anne Lang Bundy said...

Actually, I'm just sitting here in shock. The first shock was to learn you are forty. To me, your photo looks like 20's.

The second shock was to learn about your precious mother. I seem to remember her condition requiring transport from home. I've been scarce around Twitter and blogs lately, and I feel awful that I somehow missed the news of your loss. I'm so glad you had the time with your mom that you did.

I cannot think of a more perfect response on Twitter. Well done, daughter of God.

Deb said...

Actually... I think it is often the 'little' things like this that really test us and cause us to have to exercise the most self-control. The big things are no-brainers... the little day to day tests show the true state of our heart (and our self-control!) Good for you!

pip said...

Helen, I'm so proud of your great great response. It was PERFECT, and really heaped 'burning coals' on his head (for his own good), far better than an attack would have.

Attacks just raise our barriers and make us feel justified for the original attack in some weird way, but a response like yours brings the conviction of the Holy Spirit. I applaud you!!!! Yay Helen!

Russell Holloway said...

I'm sorry to hear about your mother. Your post today is one of my favorites. Maybe you could tell us about your mom sometime. If you already have, please send me a link via twitter @luvstomp

And ... You are still a spring chicken ... 40 is the new 25 ... :-)

M.L. Gallagher said...

There were probably 100 responses you could have chosen from. You chose the perfect response to walk your path with dignity and respect.

Well done!

Wendy said...

Okay, really? Why would you spoil my fun like that? That guy needed a neck punch and I really want to do it! You should really stop making me have self-control like that.

jasonS said...

Bizarre how someone would just say something like that out of the blue. Sounds like it was a test and you passed it. I don't think it's an insignificant example at all- it's real and it displays God's heart. Great job Helen- it's quite a road, but we'll get there with a lot of grace. :)

the J in PJs Til Noon said...

It doesn't seem like a small insignificance to me, seems like a lovely example of self control.
Reminds me of "a kind word turns away wrath" except maybe "a gentle response takes away all mocking sarcasm."

Marni said...

Yeah, what Wendy said. And I have an uncle and a friend in the FBI, so I would have likely taken the time to go find his house and then throat punch him. And I would have taken Annie, cuz you weren't kidding about her ;-)

Helen, I am SO sorry someone was so cruel to you...especially bringing your mom into it like that. I'm proud you took the high road like you did. I don't know that I could have.

Love you sweet friend!!

katdish said...

You handled that perfectly, Helen. I'm so proud of you. I'm also glad you didn't get me involved, because I would have NOT been kind at all. What a jerk...

Joyce said...

I admire your graceful response. Well done.

Duane Scott said...

Did you know that following you via Google Friend Connect using twitter doesn't actually place your posts in my reader?

I didn't know this, so now I have followed you the real way. Sorry about ignoring you!

Bridget Chumbley said...

Helen... what a rude and inconsiderate person. You did a great job, Helen. I'm so proud of the self control you displayed.